First off i wanted to thank Sandy for taking the time to leave me comments. I appreciate the information and that you have taken the time to share with me. We did do the signing when he was in speech therapy at 2 years. He was one of the few that once he learned to sign he stopped using any vocal sounds at all. It took 3 months to get noise out of him at all. He is one that likes to learn ways around talking and signing was a way out. So we stopped teaching him to sign. He still signs for certain items instead of using his words, but he is at least talking in sentences.
Today was a busy day. I had to take D and I to the doctor today. D has been having problems for sometime with breathing when he is sleeping. He has had his adenoids removed and he has never snored. He just cannot breath through his nose when he sleeps. It sounds like it is blocked with something. He doesn’t have a cold or allergies and we have for the last 3-4 months had him on every combination of decongestant, anti-histamine and whatnot there is. None have brought him any relief. So my pediatricians and i have decided that they have done as much as they can so i am going back to the ENT surgeon to investigate possible sinus issues. There is a strong possibility that he will be having another surgery to correct the problem. His sinuses were the main reason for the first surgery that he had. If they are unable to find anything then we will go to the pediatric allergist in Chapel Hill and see if he may have allergies. No one in either one of our families have allergies and we have had some basic allergy tests done with negative results. So we will see what this all brings.
That will be on hold until we get to the bottom of I’s issues. He has started vomiting again. Now the last hospital visit they confirmed that he had gastroesophageal reflux disease which the other two boys also had. We knew that as i have been through this twice before and knew the signs. I know that they don’t like giving the diagnosis before they are 3 weeks old. So we had put him on the medicine to help with this and it was working for a bit. In the last 3 days he has begun throwing up much more than the normal spit up that i am used to with the reflux. He was actually vomiting up a good 1-2 ounces of milk either after eating or an hour later. So we (the pediatrician and I) made the decision to take him back to the hospital for more tests. At the last visit in the hospital he was tested for Pyloric Stenosis. For those of you who don’t feel like clicking the link “Pyloric stenosis is a narrowing of the pylorus, the lower part of the stomach through which food and other stomach contents pass to enter the small intestine. When an infant has pyloric stenosis, the muscles in the pylorus have become enlarged to the point where food is prevented from emptying out of the stomach.” Now when they did the ultrasound for this before, at 4 weeks, he did not show any signs of having it. But this is common and often when tested at 8 weeks infants are found to have the problem. If I is found to have Pyloric Stenosis then he will be admitted into the hospital and will have surgery to fix this problem. Now he is not dehydrated and the only obvious problems are the vomiting and that he only has stools every 2-3 days. He is 12lbs and 14ozs so he has gained weight since his last visit. I don’t wish for him to get to the point of weight loss though. Also if he has Pyloric Stenosis and not the reflux then i would like to know. Maybe he has both or maybe he has really bad reflux and we need to do the barium study to find this out. It is important for me to know and not just keep treating the whole/real problem. It worries me that he will have surgery so early in life. I have done a lot of research on the surgery and know that it is relatively easy and there isn’t a lot cutting involved, but still i worry….ALOT. He is such a sweet boy, but he is in pain and i want to fix it.
So many issues going on. The bright spot is J is consistently coming up to us and telling us he has to potty. He is a little bothered by #2, how to handle doing that and peeing since he can’t quite master peeing sitting down. But he is telling us he has to go and which one it is.
*sigh* did i mention that i am supposed to go back to work on Wednesday night? I am terribly bummed about this. I always get very depressed when i have to go back to work. I know we need the money desperately, especially with all of these medical bills. But i feel like i am such a zombie working the night shift and being with the boys during the days isn’t the same. I don’t remember any of it and i am grumpy. I feel like i miss out on so much. I love spending time with them and going back to work is hard for me. It would be worse if i had to put them in daycare and i know that. I am thankful that i am able to work at night and be with them during the day.
Today J and D were invited to their very first birthday party that was being held at a place of business. A little girl in the neighborhood was having her 4th birthday at The Little Gym right down the street. M and i were a little worried that J would have issues with the present time since the only other birthday parties he had been around were for his brother and he has been able to play and keep toys from that.
The boys had a blast. Most of the activities were a little old for D and it was a little noisy in there at times for J, but in all fun was had. He got to sit around with other kids his age and play games (when he paid attention) and do different activities. He was great and had no problem watching the little girl open her gifts and didn’t have any issues at all. I was so happy and i really attribute this to our putting him in preschool a year early to help with his social skills.
I find myself comparing him to other kids his age. Is he the same? Is he too different? I feel bad about doing this, but i really worry that he isn’t at the same level as other kids his age. He isn’t definitely at the same level as the other kids his age with his language and he will be going in further therapy for this. I just can’t afford it while i am not working. I worry he won’t fit in in school or will be picked on. He is a sweet boy, but he does have a temper on him. He takes it out on his brother mostly, but he is starting to stand up to his friend that is more of a bully.
I think all mothers worry about their kids, but you always feel that it is different when it is your own. Plus J does has problems communicating his needs. He spent the first two years of his life for the most part deaf and after the surgery at close to 3yr he finally started to hear the way he was meant too. He has made tremendous improvements and knows a ton of words, but is still very far behind most his age at speech and comprehension. He is very witty though and has amazing knowledge of animals and numbers and letters. He puts things together very fast. His brother had tubes put in to help with sinus infections a couple months after J’s surgery and he is talking quite a bit. Of course he is not concerned with one word he says mostly two word phrases. Fine with me. Probably a little behind in talking but nothing near to what J had at that age. I won’t pursue speech therapy for him right now but i will keep an eye on it. Now that i have an idea of what i need to look for in him and the milestones that are important to reach, it will be easier.
I know that you are all waiting for an update on the potty situation. It is done for the most part. He has only had issue when he has had to do both. He doesn’t know whether to sit or stand. Other than that he has been on the ball with it. Now the mother in law is pushing for me to potty train the 2 yr “D” before it is too late.
Too late? What does that mean? In her mind i should have had them trained at 18 months. I hate to tell you but neither one was ready at that time. I would have loved to have them trained earlier, but that isn’t the way it goes. J has speech problems and just really wasn’t grasping the potty issue. D he sits on the potty that J doesn’t like whenever J goes so he is doing it some. D is the type that he would rather skateboard (yes at 2 yrs, dare devil!) than keep himself clean. He isn’t too interested in it and as i am finding he needs to have somewhat of an interest before i can really start needing him to do it. Some people are able to have their kids potty trained around 2, but even though i have only gone through this once, i do agree that they need to meet some points on the potty list.
They should be able to tell if they are wet/dirty and need to be changed.
They should be able to communicate their needs to you.
They should be able to deal with taking their clothes on and off to a degree.
They should have a grasp of what you are trying to show them in terms of, do they know what pee and poo is.
D fits none of these. I know that J probably could of been trained earlier, I admit to procrastinating this task. It isn’t easy. I hate messes. I have a bit of an anal quality about them. So i did put it off.
My theory is that they will not be going to Kindergarten in diapers so does it matter when i get it done?
M and i decided that we needed to get J another potty. We have three bathrooms in the house and it seems silly to run all over with one potty. They aren’t that expensive. So we took the boys to the big toy store and J was standing in the midst of the potty’s and next thing you know he say potty pee pee and goes right there in the middle of the store. Not to worry we haven’t gotten to the point to where he remembers to pull his own pants down, so it was contained in his clothes. So I took him to the potty and he hopped up on the big one and while he was already done, i was proud he associated it with what he had done. I changed him, we got a new potty and ever since then he goes right in the bathroom with this potty in it and does what he needs to do. He has even been telling us when he has to go during the day. We have had only one accident in the past two days and that was due to him playing with his friends and he just didn’t want to leave them. Today he has done both # in the potty and come in from outside once to go. Now he is still not getting the majority of the pee in the potty, but he sits right down and goes. We have tried getting him to stand up and he watches his father go. He isn’t interested in hitting Cheerios and now D thinks the potty holds his snacks. I appreciate all of the comments everyone has left. I know that he will get the hang of it. He is doing everything right now it seems, now we have to figure some way to get him to pee standing up.
I even put a potty on the patio since he loves standing and peeing there, but he automatically sits when he sees it.
D has been really acting out lately. I know it is because potty training and nursing I take up a lot of my time daily. I have tried spending time with him on his own, but he still is acting out a bit.
I go back to work next week. It is way earlier than planned, but we need the money and the company paying my disability decided that two surgeries or not I was only eligible for 5 weeks of maternity pay the rest of my leave has been unpaid. We cannot afford this with three kids and house/car payments and now here come the medical bills. So i go back to work next wednesday. I am not looking forward to being on the night shift again. I really feel like i lose a lot being so tired and i don’t remember to do the things i want to do with and for my kids. I never remember things that they have done. My whole day is spent existing until M can get home and i can get 3 hours of sleep.
2 steps forward, 3 steps back. Many many accidents today. No going in the bathroom, all on the floors after sitting on potty. Is this normal? Is there an end to it?
Ok i think maybe i get discouraged to easily. Yes?
I think also he may not know what pee pee really is. I mean he understands poop because we have always pointed that out diaper wise, but as for pee pee i think we mainly just called it wet. So now when he pees he thinks it is called wet. Hmm.
I would pay someone to potty train my almost 4 year old at this point. Really I would. Ok it is only Day 3 of the training and he knows all about the potty and getting his favorite treat, stickers when he goes in the potty. Yet it is a HUGE fight right now. This is by far my most unfavorite thing about parenting.