Archive | March 2007

Do you squish when you walk?

I do. It isn’t because my shoes are wet either. I am retaining SO much water that if i cut myself, i swear it will be clear. *sigh*

It rained today and so all of the pollen is now in big messy puddles around the neighborhood. It is so nice to be outside, as it is unseasonably (seasonably, shoot i don’t know anymore) cool, 58 degrees. So we are outside enjoying (i.e. I am the only one in short sleeves and flip flops, the kids are in jackets and long sleeves) the weather. My sons are racing down the street into the dead end on their big wheels and playing in the wet silt that has gathered there. I didn’t think anything of it…until…

D comes up to me, with a very odd expression on his face and thick yellow goop on his pudgy little hands and mouth. Oh my golly, he is EATING POLLEN! So we aren’t allergic to it, still i don’t believe that it is on the please eat list!

Sometimes i just have to shut my eyes with that boy and shake my head. Seriously, pollen? As a snack? It is a very pretty yellow, but D if you would notice, J is not partaking in that particular treat. “D did you ever wonder WHY that would be?” Oh well, he seems fine and well this will probably re-enforce the not being allergic part. Right?

I still squish when i walk and for the record when I wundle (run/waddle).

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This entry was posted on March 30, 2007. 1 Comment

Oh my gosh!

I am on the top page of Top Momma! If you click here it will take you there. I am particularly in love because the avatar i used for that one is one of my #1 favorites. The baby is TOO cute.

How did this happen? Someone reads me? Oh gosh thank the heavens, i thought i was just talking to myself.

Wait a minute, maybe i better re-think the nipple post then.

This entry was posted on March 29, 2007. 1 Comment

Neighbors

I have mentioned (at least i think i have) that we have wonderful neighbors. Everyone is very nice within a two house section on either side of us and the row of houses across the street. Not that the people beyond that aren’t nice, i just don’t venture out of the general area of my house/driveway. Since our house and garage have the afternoon shade, it has been deemed the clubhouse. So i tend to stay close to keep the kids from mass destruction of which they have no intention of picking up.

No they are really super kids and willingly clean up all toys that aren’t theirs.

In any case on one side of us is a couple that has been unable to conceive. Super nice couple and just great with kids. She watches a few of her family’s kids on her day off and just really seems to be  involved with them. After enduring a long bout of fertility testing and just not getting anywhere, they put themselves on a list to adopt, within the U.S..

About a year after meeting them, they were informed that there was a baby available for adoption (they are using a Christian adoption agency, that allows the birth parents to select from a number of viable people as to whom they want to raise their baby) and they were really excited.

NC  has a law that the birth mother has 7 days to change her mind about giving the baby up for adoption.

On the 6th day they were told that the mother decided to keep the baby and i just cannot imagine what they were feeling. I do know that after that, they requested not to be advised until after the 7 day period had been passed. I totally agree there.

Last week, the husband came over to let me know that they were going to pick up their new daughter the next day. I was thrilled for them. I was so excited that if i hadn’t been pregnant, i probably would of gotten pregnant that night. Weird but i get oddly excited for others. They kept us in the loop, which they didn’t need to do, but i was happy that they felt that we were people they could talk with about these things. They have often joked that if the baby they received cried, they were bringing it over for me to care for.  I can’t say that idea thrilled me. Can’t i have the happy baby?

So after a very long day and car ride, they get home and we come by briefly to give them the big baby of baby stuff that we bought for them and then we leave. I know how it is on the first few days and i wanted to give them a chance to bond as a family. Of course I don’t know that that happened, as for the next four hours there were more cars in and out of there than at Disney during the Millenium Celebration. I swear, i have never seen so many people.

It has been a little over a week since they brought her home..they have kept her in the house for a total of one day.

Huh?

One day?

Now i haven’t had a chance to talk with them much, because as they both work at the same place  and being a small business they both couldn’t take off. She took three weeks off.

What for?

Now true i do not know the WHOLE story, but i know enough to know (I heard it from her) that the baby spent the first night with the grandmother, then went to her sister’s. She is currently on day 3 on the same sister’s second time around. I don’t understand why? Why did they want a baby if they weren’t going to keep it in the home?

I know that he talks about the baby all the time and is constantly holding the baby whenever she is home. It seems to be largely her. Maybe she feels overwhelmed to have such a huge responsibility?  I personally want to know, but i don’t think it is my place to ask. I think that they will need to work it out. I think that their family needs to stop taking the baby and let them assume the parental responsibility that they signed up for.

She made a comment to me the other day about how whenever i have a baby that there is family always there to do everything. But that is NOT true. In fact, we have family to the hospital to see the new addition, but the first few days at home are ours. We don’t have anyone over and we spend time bonding together with everyone. We try to make sure that our other children feel a part of the process and aren’t left out or watched by a grandparent. I think it makes the process of bringing a new baby home easier. After a few days if people want to come over then they are welcome to.

Plus i don’t know about you, but when i get home from the hospital, i look like a Yeti in need of a shower.

Days like this…

Seriously halfway through the day, i realized that my underwear was on inside-out and backwards.

*sigh*

I fixed it.

I just got back from peeing and it is on inside out. How does this keep happening?

I wonder if my pants are on right?

Truth, even if it hurts

I am still here. Are you? Ok well probably not right now because it is SUPER late, but i am still having my bladder used as a soccer ball.

I was reading a favorite blogger of mine,  Lucinda or Suburban Turmoil as her blog is known and today’s post was so VERY VERY true that i thought i would link to it. It is a super good post so if yu have time and have had kids, READ IT!

I have to say that i agree with her, whole heartedly! I was NEVER warned when i was pregnant with J about breastfeeding. I knew that it was something that i wanted to do and that i was determined to get it somewhat right. Now my mom died when i was younger and my dad has remarried to a wonderful lady, but i really felt that i couldn’t ask her any pertinent nipple questions. My nipples had increased in size since becoming pregnant (another thing i never knew would happen) and i was convinced the suckers wouldn’t work. I have no idea why this is, but i just knew i would be unable to do it.

When J was born, despite my not having taken any classes on breastfeeding or having spoken with any of the boob squad (La Leche), he took over. I didn’t need to know anything about it, he figured it out that mommy was not going to be a help and latched on like a Hoover in a dust mite frenzy. Thank GOD!

The problem became though that he was feeding every two hours and before i knew it i was in AGONY! The boob squad had come by and (SO embarassing!) watched me feed and actually stuck her finger in J’s mouth between my nipple to confirm that he was latched on correctly. This was the end of day 1 and i was just beginning my trip down piercing pain lane. By the time we were ready to leave the hospital, i wanted to leave without a shirt on because the thought of ANYTHING touching my nipples caused me to weep uncontrollably. No one told me this was normal. No one assured me that this would pass. I thought that i was about to go insane for the next year, as i was determined to give J everything i could give him, but it would probably cost me my sanity.

Oh my I can still remember the pain. My only source of relief was a nurse in my dr’s office that had nursed 7 boys (dear god WOMAN!) and was able to talk with me about it. At that point i had gotten over my boob shyness and was ready to whip them out to ANYONE who would help relieve the agony.  She gave me some natural ointment and the best advise of my life, to let the milk dry on my nipple. If possible, go braless for a bit after feeding and it worked. That and my boobs adapted, but i remembered this advice with D’s time around and the pain period was a much shorter duration.

So whenever any of my friends ask me for advice on pregnancy or something that i was never told, i share the above with them. I am truly for mothers doing simply the best that they can for their babies and i tell everyone that if they cannot stick breastfeeding out, not to beat themselves up over it. You just want to be the best mother, however works best for you.

This entry was posted on March 26, 2007. 1 Comment

Sooner rather than later

I just wanted to let everyone know that sometimes it may be days between posts. I am so big right now that it is impossible to reach the keyboard as my stomach is right in the way. I am having problems sitting for periods of time at the computer, so you may not see me write anything for a few days. No worries though I am still here and eternally pregnant.

This entry was posted on March 25, 2007. 1 Comment

Finally!

We received some wonderful news today. My sister after many failed attempts and miscarriages has finally become pregnant. We are so thrilled for her! She has suffered through many sad times and while she is always excited when i become pregnant she has been avoiding the nephews lately. I think it serves as a reminder to what she didn’t have. I always felt a bit sad that i have had no real troubles conceiving, in fact we will have to have some permanent measures taken when we are finally done having kids, since we are immune to birth control. Thank goodness i didn’t have this ease at conceiving in high school or college with any of my boyfriends. Geesh.

Unfortunately even though she is three months along, with her past issues this does not put her past having issues carrying the baby to term. I hope for her to have an uneventful pregnancy, but i know she is stressed and worried. It would be hard not to be, although i cannot fathom what emotions she must be going through. It always makes me tear up to think of losses no matter what part of the pregnancy or life the child is.

But my hope is for her to experience how full children can make your life.

This entry was posted on March 24, 2007. 1 Comment